Don't Judge Challenge

Hi Everyone,


    Lately there seems to be a trend going around for challenges on the internet. The newest one is the Don't Judge Challenge with the hashtag, #don'tjudgechallenge, supposedly promoting self love and acceptance for other. I decided to create one of these video the way I think the challenge should actually have been done. Here it is:

Don't Judge Challenge by Fatfreevee

We are living in a society where beauty is more important than many other things. Don't get me wrong. We should strive to be better for ourselves but not to impress others, and we sure shouldn't judge those who are different in any way from ourselves. Different should be embraced not try to be replaced or changed. 

Thank you for watching. Please share if you enjoyed this video! 

Kindly, 

Fatfreevee

Why are you NOT motivated?

Hello All!!!

    There was so much promise in the month of January. Promise and excitement toward a new lifestyle, a new way of looking at food and fitness. Then came the beginning of February and although, not as motivated as in January, you still had a bit of gusto, ate well mostly and exercised at least once a week. Now, here we stand, at the end of February, and you hardly have any pep in your lifestyle and weight loss step.

   What went wrong?

   Where along the way did you lose your drive?

   Why are you not motivated?


   Before I address these questions, I want you to know, the purpose of this blog is to help guide you on the path of weight loss and aid in a lifestyle and health transformation.  And sometimes the best way to do that is with a dose of reality and truth, that most of the time, we don't want to hear...

Sooooo,

 Question:

   Why aren't you motivated?

 Answer:

   You don't want it badly enough!

  I know that sounds cruel but I am trying to help! This is the simple truth. In life you don't make changes unless you want them badly enough. Simple as that.

   Now, you may be thinking to yourself that I am wrong, that you want this so badly. But do you? Really sit and think about it for just a minute. If you wanted this as badly as you say you do, would you be making the excuses you do on a daily basis? The, "Oh, I am tired so I am not going to work out today," and the, " One cupcake won't be that bad for me," or the, " I can eat a second helping of that pasta" excuse. All these things are just that, excuses, another way of saying we don't want it badly enough.

   The reason I say it the way I do, is because I am currently living it. My wedding is May 2nd. The date was just confirmed. I have my dress and have my FINAL dress fitting in ONE month. That's right. One month.... meaning I have one month to get in the best shape of my life for the one day I will be photographed more than any other day in my life. You would think that would be the ultimate motivation right???? So did I. But there is something holding me back from fully committing. As much as I say I WANT to look flawless on my wedding day, and how badly I want to lose another 10 pounds before the wedding. I don't want it badly enough. I think to myself that yes, I would love to lose those 10 pounds but if I don't, it really won't be that big of a deal because I think I look fine.

  There is nothing wrong with having those thoughts! I should be allowed to love myself and my imperfections but I should also learn to be honest with myself and in why I cannot find the motivation. Simply put, I don't want it badly enough. I don't have the same drive I did when I was 280 pounds. I have redirected my energy and motivation into maintaining my 140 pounds and frankly haven't fully made the commitment to losing the last 10 pounds.

   So, as much as I say yes, I want to lose that weight and NEED to get in shape for my wedding, at this moment, it is all talk because I haven't really committed myself to the cause.
 
    I know some of you are really not liking what I am saying because it is making you reflect on some of the choices you have made. And to that I say good. I am not trying to make you feel badly about the decisions you have made, strictly trying to get you to own them. Because the quicker you own them, the quicker you can get moving toward your goal and actually finding real motivation and staying motivated.

Some steps to help you find and KEEP yourself MOTIVATED!

Step 1.

Commit yourself:

  Don't just say it, just to say it... MEAN it.

Make a commitment, write it down, envision it and be ready to live it. Be realistic and realize this is going to be a journey, that you will not lose the weight over night and fully believe this is your next step, understand it means some sacrifices and if you can admit all of those things to yourself , that is when you are ready. Until you make the commitment. You will not lose any weight, or get healthy.

Step 2.

Inspiration:

 Find what INSPIRES you to lose weight!

   It can be anything you want it to be! Anything from, you wanting to fit in your old size four jeans to you wanting to be able to go up the stairs without getting out of breath, to wanting to run with your toddler!

   But whatever you do, be HONEST with yourself. If your real reason to want to lose weight is to look hot and sexy, OWN it. If it is to improve your marriage, OWN it, if it is so that you can walk into a room and feel confident, OWN it. But whatever you do, do not falsify your inspiration. Don't say you are losing weight for your children, if you are doing it to be a hot mom, both are great. OWN your inspiration because ultimately; it has to be about what really inspires YOU that helps you move forward, especially when times get hard.

   Find your inspiration and GO WITH IT!

   Write it down on a sticky note and stick it to your mirror, your dash board, your computer screen, your shower door, make it your cell phone wallpaper, stick it on your refrigerator, ANYWHERE you will be able to see it and remember what your reason, inspiration and your original motivation is!!

Step 3.

Accountability:

Do you ever wonder why programs like Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig and more are so popular and have proven themselves to work??

Accountability.

   Those programs hold you accountable. You have someone to check into, you have to track your progress whether good or bad. You have to go to a meeting and be seen. Most of the time there is a fee.

   All those things hold you accountable to more than just yourself. They give you more of a sense of urgency to do well. To not disappoint others, beside yourself or to not lose the money you work so hard to earn. Those things have been proven to work time, and time again.

   If you don't want to join any programs and want to do it on your own. GREAT. But find something to hold you accountable. Tell your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, mother, daughter, son etc your weight. Make Monday your check in days and report your weight to them, wether good or bad. Uncomfortable??? YES! But that is the point . This will push you to do better and hold you accountable for your food and health decisions.

   Join some sort of a contest. A biggest loser contest at work or recruit a couple of friends and put money in a pot. Winner takes all.

   Those are just some ideas to help you stay accountable and thus helping you stay motivated.


   These are just three of my favorite steps to stay motivated, in what I know, can be a stressful and difficult process of losing weight and getting healthy. I am going to start applying them as of NOW and I hope you will with me! I wish you success!

If I could do it, so can you!

Thank you for reading,
Fatfreevee

New Year's Resolution Failure Resolved!

Hey there!!

  Happy New Year!

     The new year brings out the best in us! A fresh start, a new chance, a new year! Along with the New Year we have New Year's resolutions!

   What is a resolution?

res·o·lu·tion:

1.

a firm decision to do or not to do something.

    We almost all have them! They are almost always about self improvement and a good portion of them are to lose weight and get healthy! 

  But what happens along the road?? Why have most given up our resolutions by February??

      Today I want to share my top FIVE reasons why I believe our New Year' resolutions don't get met.

1:

    We take on too many resolutions.


  Instead of a single resolution, we have many, many resolutions... I want to lose weight, get fit, eat healthy, stop smoking, get organized, be a morning person, stop drinking coffee, make partner, get a raise, get married, have a baby, win a Grammy, become a movie star, save money and look 10 years younger in 2015.

WHAT??

  YES, having goals is SUPER healthy, but putting too any things on your shoulders all at once can lead to feeling inadequate and make you hide from the things you are trying to achieve, rather than look forward to tackling them.

  Try focusing on achieving one or two goals at a time. That way, you can truly master those things you are actively working on. Making it a pleasurable experience versus a failure.

  Again, I am NOT saying having dreams and goals are a bad thing but the MORE you tackle at one time the LESS time you have to devote to each of your goals and have LESS time for a balanced life.

2:
 
    We want instant results.

  Let's take a moment to admit that we, for the most part, as a society, have VERY LITTLE PATIENCE... We want it NOW... I want my coffee now, I want my food fast, I want my Facebook page to load in less than a second, I want to my waist line shrink by tomorrow, let's stream that movie instantly.

  We want it NOW! Right NOW!

  We especially want it with weight loss. Funny, it takes us, months, years, life times to put ON weight but we magically expect it to FALL off. And so we get discouraged, when the weight is slow to come off, and when the progress takes time to see, so we stop trying. Because for whatever reason, slow progress is not better than NO progress in our eyes.

  We have to learn to be patient with our weight loss journey. SLOW progress is better than NO progress any day of the week! The time will pass regardless! So why not just KEEP GOING?


3:

    We aren't really committed. 

  This is a hard one to admit to our selves. We aren't really committed. We DO want to lose weight, we DO want to look better, we DO want to feel better, but we DON'T really want to do the work. We AREN'T really ready to commit. We aren't ready to change our lifestyle.

   I am NOT trying to discourage you, but rather get you to realize, WHY are you wanting to lose weight? Is it because you REALLY feel like now is the time?? And if you do feel like NOW is the time, are you really wanting to COMMIT to this change??? That my friends is the first step. You need to commit to this change and realize it is going to be hard but you are willing to do it for your self anyway!


4:

    We put too much pressure on JANUARY 1st. 

   I get it, New year, New you! And in theory, that's a great attitude to have! But stop putting so much pressure on January 1st! It is just another day! Yes, it is the beginning of the year! And yes there is something renewing about a new year and a new start but if you fail on January 2nd, you don't have to wait until January 1st of 2016 to restart! YOU have the ability to change your life any day of the year! And trust me, a year from the date you didn't start you'd be wishing you started then!

   Do you know that if you were JUST to lose ONE pound a week.... You would lose 52 pounds in ONE YEAR! I know, you are thinking, "Wow, thanks for stating the obvious". But IS it that obvious??? Then why are you sad when you lose a pound a week? Why do you feel it's not enough?

   Let's stop putting so much pressure on January 1st and our selves to have instant life changes. Life takes work! Let's move forward regardless what day it is! And be able to truly live our lives moving forward!

5:

      Be Prepared!

   Ok, you are pumped up! You plan to go to the gym and eat healthy, and weigh your self and measure your inches and track your calories every day. But then life happens! You skipped a work out, forgot your lunch and had to eat something unexpected, you didn't bring your phone to track your calories.

  Listen, I know so many of these ads on TV, online, in magazines, make us feel so awful by posting,

   "What's your excuse??????" LIFE, That is my excuse!

   Things happen. You get sick, your car breaks, it rains, you run out of money, your phone dies, your scale breaks, etc. Life happens. And that's the point!
 
   Life DOES happen... so don't let it discourage you! Have a back up plan! Be prepared! Be prepared that life is going to happen, but how are you going to REACT to those things? That is what is going to determine if you find success in weight loss and healthy living. How do you deal with over eating on Monday? Do you over eat on Tuesday or a choose a longer workout? Forgetting your phone so you can't track your calories one day doesn't mean you have to stop calculating them the rest of the week. Find ways around the things that tend to derail you from your goals.

  Be prepared for life, because things happen! It is how you react that determines your success!

   Now that it is almost Febuary, ask your self, "Have I given up on my New Year's resolution?" If the answer is yes, then take a step back to realize, your goals, they can be met, any minute of any day. Chose today to be the day you take back your life from your problems, from your high weight, from your poor health habits.

Thank you for reading!
FATFREEVEE

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